Letting Go Of Regret & Overcoming Fears!

Hello all you lovely lot,

Did you all have a nice weekend? I hope so.  Mine was fair to middling as I was working mostly, but I did get to see Cinderella which was the cherry on my Sunday (despite seeing it on Saturday.)  Fantasy, big dresses, glitter & happily ever afters.  The impossible dream made reality for 90 or so minutes. . .

So today I wanted to chat about education, knowledge & learning.  My own (scholastic) experience can be summed up pretty quickly.  I got my leaving certificate from secondary school, did well in French, English & Art History.  Went to college the following year to study Culture & French. Got completely overwhelmed & distracted by nightlife & all the frills.  I failed a module, never repeated it & to my eternal detriment & regret I stupidly dropped out of college. 
But hindsights great & it was evident I wasn’t mature enough at the time.  I know that now & have stopped beating myself up over the could’ve beens.  Because I wouldn’t have met the people I’ve met, I wouldn’t have had the experiences I’ve had on the trajectory I did end up on.  There really is very little point in regretting things (although hard not to at times). 
It’s a fast track to robbing your happiness & focus from other things you could be doing to make yourself more content & wiser.  I really try to remember that.  To be fair I fail 90% of the time but I won’t stop trying. 

The following year I did a PLC course in French & got to spend a summer in Paris.  That was in 2001 & today 14 years later I still find myself strolling along the Seine at 6am watching the book sellers open their stalls whenever my mind wanders.  That’s my memory, for keeps & I can go there whenever I want.  No degree was required for me to gain it.

I’ve been to Paris about 5 or so times & like I said when I close my eyes I’m back there.  If I hadn’t have flunked college would I have this memory that I hold so dear? Who knows.  I remind myself of this whenever I think about visiting regretsville.  Usually a few times a week to be fair.  There are some things a university degree cannot buy you.  Do I still want one? Of course!
But I’ve been out of education for a loOong time, I got to clicking about on that there World Wide Web & happened upon a plethora of free courses . Yup you heard me . .  FREE!!

Fair enough they aren’t accredited, but that doesn’t make the knowledge gained through doing them any less real.  The brain is a muscle, just like legs, eyes, arms etc & it needs flexed every now & then to keep it fit. 

I started my diploma in Mental Health Studies tonight.  The catastophiste in me wants to say ‘oh but it’s not a real diploma’ But I’ve given that part of me the night off & I’m getting stuck in to my course. 
I’d love to do an accredited one at some stage so that’s my new goal.  
I was reminded tonight by my best friend of something I said when I was a kid “I’ll never be able to run, I’m not fit”.  I’ve since forced myself to become fit & have two 10ks under my belt with a 3rd on the horizon in July.  Running used to be an impossibility.  So I just never tried.  A scary thought wouldn’t you agree?  How many things have you put off doing just because you thought you might not be able to? 
What’s really holding you back from TRYING!?? Nothing! Not a thing, if you fail you fail, but sure just try it again eh. 

I have days where my goal isn’t to run 6 miles, it isn’t to do a degree.  Somedays my goal is to just get out of bed.  If you know me in real life you’ll know I’ll happily chat away about my experience with depression, it affects us all one way or another so it should be spoken about out loud. 

I’m mentioning it because your goals are YOUR goals & they DO NOT & SHOULD NOT be compared to anyone elses.  No matter what it is it’s your achievement & you should be nothing short of delighted with it. 
So if there’s something you want to try then just try it.  You’ll surprise yourself for the better. I promise.

Thanks so much for reading,

~LoVe & huGs ~





Hey there,

Tonight was a first for me, I went to a yoga class.  I’ve always been curious so I bit the bullet & went & I’m so glad I did.


Wow! I’d no idea humans could bend like that. It was really awesome, starting with slow deep breathes & meditation to full body stretches like a cat to core strength moves & balancing. It was a really chilled atmosphere, lovely people & the teacher was great. So as soon as I got home I got to researching & let me tellya the benefits of yoga are plenty. 

Here are just a handful:

*  If you have poor/ average posture it’ll begin to fix itself overtime.

*  Your strength, flexibility & endurance will increase.

*  Arm & shoulder strength is multiplied from using your own body weight for resistance.

*  Lats & other back muscles will begin to support the spine better than before.

* With the deep breathing & meditation that’s involved you’ll feel relieved from stress & mental clutter.

* Protects your spine.  Between forward bends, backbends & all the twists involved this will help keep the discs in your spine supple.

*  Makes you happier.  Tonight I found it hard to to do many of the poses but I was thrilled to bits for trying plus I can only improve.  Doing things you enjoy boosts your serotonin levels & makes you feel good, so get out there & do them!

Like I said, these are only a few of the benefits of yoga, why not try it yourself & see if you notice any others. Honestly clear your head from any preconceived ideas you have of it & just go, you’ll be glad you did.
Thanks so much for reading!

~LoVe & huGs~



Portion Control & Budgeting

Hello there,

I wanted to talk about food shopping & food portions today.  I’ve taken a notion recently to watch what I eat, or moreso how much of what I eat. 
I bought a digital food scale in Lidl last week & began my mission to weigh my meals.  I was mortified at how much I’d been piling on my plate & scraping into the bin.  Basically I was piling on weight & throwing money away. 


I went food shopping today & had blinkers on to sweeties, chocolate & crisps.  I was intent on buying essentials to cook proper meals with.   
Like the soup mix in the bottom corner of the above photo was £1 & I’ll get maybe 4 bowls from it.


There’s 4 other options.  I’ll be a soup making queen in no time.


When I used to buy a bag of frozen chips I’d shake a random amount of them onto a tray & into the oven they’d go, then into the bin the ones I didn’t eat went.  So this time round with my trusty scales I’m weighing out what I should be eating. 


I bought sandwich bags & got busy weighing & filing up the freezer.  I won’t feel bad about having chips now seeing as I’ll be having a normal portion & not weighing them out with my eyes like I used to.

I’m going to make a massive effort not to buy things I really don’t need & check how I’ve done in a month.  Hopefully I’ll be richer, lighter & healthier. 

Thanks so much  reading.

~ LoVe & huGs ~